Tuesday, August 6, 2013

The down side of (not believing) in Santa Claus

I teach third grade, and there always comes a point in the year where there is a division between kids who believe, and kids who don’t believe in Santa Claus. The kids who do believe are quite earnest in their belief, even going so far as to agree with the kids who point out that “it’s your parents” by suggesting that some of the Santa presents are from your parents, but there still is a Santa Claus. The kids who don’t believe strut around, flaunting their “adult” knowledge of this “secret” that you keep from kids.
Often, the kids ask me if I believe in Santa Claus. I give them the excellent answer that I learned from the principal of the first school that I taught at: “Well, if you don’t believe, you’re not gonna get presents. So, I figure, I’ll believe.” No one can argue with that.
Recently, I have discovered, that delusions, are delusions- and this is like not believing in Santa Claus. See, when I first learned about delusions, I started to see that I had them often. I noticed how frequently I made them up, how pleasant they were, how elaborate I could get with them, and how close they were to reality. I discovered that I spend a lot of time in delusions. They’re fun, they’re interesting, I get to control everything, and they always work out great- and if they don’t, I just make up new ones.
Then I started trying not to get caught up in them- to notice when I got lost in them and to bring myself out of them again. This was frustrating at first, but over time I started to notice just how fuzzy I got when I was lost in delusions and how clear I felt when I was present to what was in front of me.
But then one day, I realized, that delusions are actually delusions- they are not reality.  See, I was having a bummer day and I went off into a delusion and it occurred to me that it really was just a delusion. It was all in my head, it was all just thoughts, it did actually nothing to change whatever unpleasant situation I was in and trying to avoid.
“This sucks!” I thought. “I didn’t get in to this to figure out that I can’t avoid things! I didn’t get in to this to realize that my thoughts aren’t reality! This totally sucks! This practice only brought me to the reality of this situation that I don’t like!”
And the worst thing was, I couldn’t even do anything about it. I actually knew that any delusion I would dream up to avoid this reality was just that: a delusion. It had no use to me anymore- it wasn’t effective at all, it was just stupid thoughts that I made up and it had absolutely no effect on the reality that I was experiencing.
I felt cheated, and angry, and also I laughed at myself. But mostly I was pissed because this lovely tool that I had for avoiding reality was robbed from me, by me being so darn earnest in my practice.
Of course, I still go off into delusions. I suppose you could call it my dharma gate; but I like to refer to it as one of my greater qualities ‘cause I really am good at making up delusions that are only a hair’s breadth from reality.
Apparently, I still want to believe in Santa Claus. Who wouldn't? Who wouldn't want a room full of presents with only you and your imagination to decide what's inside them...

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